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Wedding Tip #8: Do not book your honeymoon under your married name

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Unless you are not going out of the country or have enough time between the wedding and the honeymoon to change your name on your passport, do not book your honeymoon under your married name.  You will need your completed marriage license which you get after the wedding.  Not until then can you apply to change your name on your passport which takes 2-6 weeks depending on the service (expedited or regular) you choose.

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Wedding Tip #7: Leaving for your honeymoon right after the wedding may not be ideal

Traditionally, couples leave for their honeymoon right after the wedding or the morning after.  But think twice before you book that honeymoon.  Partying for 4 to 5 hours will leave you exhausted, especially at night.  You’ll be too tired after the wedding, don’t overtax yourself by taking a trip right after.  Give yourself a day or two to recuperate.

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Wedding Tip #6: Think twice before having more than one Maid-of-Honor

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I’m not against more than one Maid-of-Honor.  But just make sure that they all get along.  More than one may create confusion.  When it comes to doing something for the wedding, like planning the bridal shower, the process can get ugly.

This happened to me.  My two Maids-of-Honor have very different personalities.  I’m not gonna go into details, but I got constant complaints from both of them until the shower.  At one point, I didn’t want a shower anymore because it was stressing me out more than my own wedding planning, not to mention it was stressing my Maids-of-Honor too.

If money is an issue (e.g. hosting the bridal shower), you still don’t need to have more than one Maid-of-Honor.  Make sure you let your Maid-of-Honor know that any bridal shower is fine with you and it’s okay for her to spend only what she can afford.

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Tiffany’s The First, The Last, My Everything by Josh Radin

I saw the commercial from Tiffany below and I thought the version of the song is perfect for a wedding!  I’ve been waiting for the song to be available for download and now it is at Tiffany’s What Makes Love True website.  If you like the song, head there now. There are only a limited number of free downloads.



Snippet:
The first, the last, my everything
And the answer, to all my dreams
You’re my sun, my moon, my guiding star
My kind of wonderful, that’s what you are

Wedding Reviews Vol.7: Wedding Venue – Belle Mer

Belle Mer (www.bellemernewport.com)

Belle Mer is gorgeous.  We fell in-love as soon as we saw it.  It’s modern, chic and has a great view.  We got married at the Island House and it was perfect for our small party.

There were a few little things that I didn’t like though.  The restrooms at the Island House were tiny and looked like gas station restrooms (e.g. imagine tiny sinks), except cleaner.  The lounges at the side of the ceremony area that you think are automatically set up when a wedding is going on, weren’t set up at our wedding.  The forecast didn’t say it was gonna rain that day, just cloudy, so I don’t know why they never set it up.  They also used a hanging rack for “coat check” and hid it behind a wooden divider (that did not fit the decor) placed at the entrance of the Island House.  I didn’t request for a coat check and it was an eyesore.

Belle Mer staff did a great job with the food.  The guests loved the food, even though the food at our tasting tasted better.  Our guests were impressed with the service.  Everything was well coordinated from serving food to retrieving empty dinnerware.  The wait staff was eager to accommodate everybody’s food requests.

I love how I get a bridal attendant who waited on me hand and foot.  I wasn’t used to having an attendant so I tried to do everything myself, until my bridal attendant told me to use her.  At the cocktail hour, two of the wait staff were assigned to serve us (John and I) food while we do our photos which we appreciated very much.  I think they were assigned to serve us during the reception too.  One was able to get the kitchen staff to cook extra scallops that John missed at the cocktail hour.  But they were delayed in serving us the courses.  There were a couple of times we were served last, the guests started eating their food and we were still waiting.

The Belle Mer event coordinator assigned to us was very helpful.  And she seemed like she really cared about our wedding.  She was quick to respond, sometimes even in the middle of the night!  She did forget about a few details, like the number of chairs at the ceremony site.  She was the one who suggested doubling the number of chairs.  But came wedding day, there weren’t enough chairs for my guests.  The place setting was set up differently from what we discussed, but it wasn’t a big deal coz it was still beautiful.

A lot of brides complained about the planning stages with Belle Mer.  I think it depends a lot on the event coordinator.  A good event coordinator can make the planning go smoothly.  Our event coordinator made the planning less stressful for me.  This does not mean that the planning wasn’t stressful at all.  Belle Mer was actually a big stress on our wallets.  Our event coordinator did help us and eased some of that money-related stress.

Instead of minimum number of guests or food and beverage minimum, Belle Mer has what’s called “event minimum.”  Unlike the food and beverage minimum that only includes cost of food and beverage, the event minimum includes everything from site fees to food to third party vendors hired through Belle Mer.

I prefer the event minimum over minimum number of guests coz we didn’t have many guests.  All of our guests were from out of town, so I wasn’t sure of the number of guests that would be able to attend.  With the event minimum, I was able to use the rentals, my DJ fee, and farewell goodie bags to meet the minimum.  If Belle Mer had to enforce a minimum number of guests, I would have had to pay for people that weren’t there.  Thankfully Belle Mer had event minimum instead.

Belle Mer (Longwood Events) consider themselves a ”full-service event company”  They can help you plan your event from catering to hiring your photographer.  Tell them what you envision on your wedding day, and they can find and hire the vendors that will implement your vision.   This is great for brides who would want everything in one place, but also have the money for it.

Belle Mer added 30% to the vendors’ prices they procured. In addition to that, Belle Mer’s administrative charge (18%) and taxes were applied to those prices as well. Belle Mer may tip and feed the vendors free of charge, but I don’t think it’s worth the extra charges they tack on. I will not pay a wedding planner 30% (Belle Mer’s upcharge) + 18% (Belle Mer’s administrative charge) to hire a vendor for me, would you? That’s an additional 53.4%! But if I were to hire the vendor myself, Belle Mer would have charged a vendor fee of $500 per vendor. Again, the 18% administrative fee applies to this $500 vendor fee, then taxes (8% total) are applied to the vendor fee plus the administrative fee. I am not sure if they still charge vendor fees, but this was based on a contract created December 2008.

Take note that Belle Mer does not charge service charge unlike other venues, but they charge 18% administrative charge.  Most venues charge less than 8% for administrative charge.  And remember that taxes (7% State of RI tax and 1% City of Newport tax) are applied to that 18% administrative charge.

Belle Mer’s employees are not tipped employees. The administrative charge does not represent a tip, gratuity, or service charge for wait staff employees, service employees, or service bartenders. However, the administrative charge may be used, in whole or in part and subject to the Belle Mer’s sole discretion, to pay regular wages, overtime compensation, and/or incentive compensation to various staff members engaged in the production and execution of Client’s event.

I hope I did not scare you with the costs.  If planned well, the cost can be minimized.  So yes, I would still recommend Belle Mer.  Overall, they did a great job and everybody including my husband and I enjoyed the wedding.

TIPS:

  • Hire the vendor yourself if the vendor’s fee is higher than $1047.   If less than that, ask Belle Mer to hire the vendor for you, unless your event coordinator is willing to waive the vendor fee ($500).
  • Don’t be afraid to ask your event coordinator if he/she can waive vendor fees if any.
  • If you’re meticulous about details, make sure you tell your event coordinator every little detail.  Don’t leave out anything from decor to coat racks to timelines.
This review is based on a contract created on December 2008 and wedding that took place May 2010. Photos by MKD Photography.

My Saturday

You’ll notice that I haven’t blogged for a few days.  I have been so busy with wedding stuff.  Stress has been a constant companion.  But Saturday was a great day.  And I’m not only talking about the weather.  Here’s a sneak peak…

Wanna guess what I was up to last Saturday?

I want my sleep

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I’ve heard a lot of brides not able to sleep the night before their weddings.  I witnessed this first hand when I was my cousin’s maid-of-honor.  We both slept at her hotel room before the wedding and she just kept turning unable to sleep.  I was very exhausted from my trip (NY to Philippines) just the day before, but I just kept waking up from her moving.

I love my sleep.  I don’t want what happened to my cousin to happen to me.  I wanna have a good night sleep before the wedding considering I’m waking up at 5am on my wedding day.  But I know I’ll be too anxious, nervous, excited, whatever to go to sleep.  So I was thinking of taking drugs.  Yup, I wanna drug myself to sleep.  I usually take Tylenol PM (for travel) to knock me out.  What do you think?  Is there a better and safe drug out there that I can take to help me get a good night sleep and not feel groggy early the next morning?

Destressing

As the wedding gets closer, I’m getting more nightmares about it.  I guess the planning is starting to really stress me out.  So I decided that I need some pampering.  But it’s not cheap, so I just stick to facials which also help prepare my skin for the wedding.  Excluding the extraction, facials and the facial and shoulder massages that come with it are pretty relaxing.

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Wedding Tip #5: Think of wedding bands when shopping for engagement ring

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This tip is usually for the groom.  But if you, the bride, are choosing your engagement ring like me, this applies to you too.

There are engagement rings with the prongs so low that it is hard to find a wedding band that will fit flush with the engagement ring.  The setting that I chose for my engagement ring had these prongs.  I tried a lot of wedding bands, even contour ones.  But they didn’t look good with my engagement ring.  The only way to go was to get my wedding band custom-made.  So do yourself a favor and think of wedding bands when shopping for an engagement ring so you don’t run into any problems in the future.

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When I can’t see

I’ve been having problems looking at a distance.  And I have been in denial for a long time.  But John decided to take me to the Optometrist himself and I got my very first glasses.  Pardon the crappy picture.

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I don’t like glasses and contact lenses, but I need them especially when I drive.  Then I thought about the wedding.  Contact lenses are out coz I don’t like how I see with them at a close distance.  So should I walk down the aisle with my glasses (that I don’t like) or just walk practically blind and not see John’s reaction until I get right to his face?  I guess that’s what our photographers are for… to capture his reaction while I walk blindly down the aisle! :)